Project52- Post1-My Hubby's Birthday!

3rd January 2013-33years old. A whole bunch of 3s.

I have never done anything special for my husband. I always thought he didnt like too much hoopla. But he does. Facepalm! Not the big party kind. But atleast a make-me-feel-special but not too many people kind of hoopla. So I was told in a not-so-subtle way.

So now a day to go , I have no hooplas coming to mind but I have got to do something. This is the man who used to travel 60 kms,  just to meet me for 30 minutes. Sigh!
We got to know each other first in May,2005. So the first birthday of his after that was in 2006. I don't remember what we did. :(

Then in 2007, He came all the way traveling the above said kilometers to meet me and I think I gave him a measly greeting card :(

In 2008, We were so busy with wedding preps that we didn't meet. I just wished him on the phone :P

In 2009, First year into marriage should have been special but We were at in-laws place. So they arranged something and I really didn't put any effort apart from buying him a Polo Tee.

In 2010,I was pregnant in my first trimester and too queasy to do anything. :((

In 2011, We went out to eat but had to rush back quickly as I was still feeding my 5month old.

In 2012, I was all alone taking care of my 15 month old without any help. I thought I did super just to order a tiny cake home for him :p

So you see my performance on his birthdays are abysmal. Why didn't he leave me still? I don't have a clue yet. :D

So here's me trying to do somethings that will make him feel special on his special day. I am not too much of a Displaying-Emotions-Easily[DEE] Girl . So this took effort, mind you!

A little wall work from his own new Printer(Gift 1) 

 The Cake that I baked which looked bad but tasted good. ( I have testimonials!)

The cake that was ordered from his favorite bakers in Hyderabad. Any Hyderabadi can guess where this is from.

 

Then the gifts in the form of many many clothes 

If they all look the same to you,dont worry they are nearly!

 I also made his favorite Batata Wada for breakfast, Vange chi Bharit for Lunch and Rajma Chawal for Dinner of which I forgot to take any pics :D We also went to the Birla Temple in the evening,of which we arent allowed to take pictures of.

Here is the Birthday boy finally . I hope he enjoyed his birthday!

The Mango Tee is my choice :P

So that is my first attempt at doing something special for my husband with whom I have had a relation for almost 7 years now. High Time ! Next time I'll up my scales a bit more.

Day 7 - Friday! My Shaggy Legs

T.G.I.F

 I was just seeing yesterday's Grey's Anatomy episode on StarWorld. The way Lizzy was so paranoid of shaving her legs before her "special night" with George ( which in mind is like incest :P) got me thinking.  I realized I don't care to shave/wax my legs on most days unless I decide to wear a short dress or a capri or some thing on those lines. I really don't care what my husband thinks/likes/wants anymore. I am sure till we got married and till an year or later,he thought I had no hair on my legs at all .
Mental Note: Dont take him for granted and put some effort , Girl!
He is not frivilous and doesnt care much about appearances. But once in a while I think He'd like the wife not to look like Shaggy!

It is sort of comforting feeling though. I am no longer insecure in the relationship. It shows that a pair of hair legs isn't going to create any rift. :P  I remember being paranoid in the beginning of the relationship and visiting  salons almost on a weekly basis even though we hardly met.

And the days we did meet, I had to look my absolute best. In retrospect a complete made up doll. I always thought of myself to be a plain jane in terms of physical beauty. I was always about the books never about the looks. He,on the other hand, isn't an average Joe. He could model if he wanted to. All the girls in my office would swoon when he came on his bike in a casual black jean and jacket to pick me up. Most told me I was lucky to be dating him and should hold on to him tight. I did so literally and figuratively.

But I think over time as I got to know him better and beyond the looks, I felt more relaxed and started to believe when he said that he thought I was the most beautiful girl he has ever met :D

I am now rushing to see the Dental Surgeon even though the pain has miracalously disappeared. Gayab. :D Lets see what she says about my horizontal wisdom teeth now.

Its the weekends that are going to be difficult for me to post in this Marathon because its my 32 year old who is more demanding of my time than my 2 year old. But I am obsessed about this and I' ll make sure I put up something. :)

Tomorrow is my Date Day! The toddler goes to Grannies place and I am going to doll up for the hubby. I don't know if he notices but I'll feel good about it for sure :)

I also am planning to take the toddler to the flower show in a park in the vicinity this weekend. It should be a fun weekend for me as I am going finally see both Talaash and Life of Pi!
What you doing this weekend?

Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage!

These words are uniquely intertwined in the Indian culture. Great literature and the colorful bollywood
would be bland without these words. So many stories have been centric around Boy meets Girl,Boy meets girl's parents
but brace yourself the parents shoo the boy away with guns. There might be many reasons for the parents to oppose-caste,
color,money,peer pressure,relative pressure,etc; But it is always there. So it was in my case too.

Yup mine was the 'Love Marriage' that rises many eyes with curiosity.The added fun part is that the boy I was in love with is not from the same community and state and talks a different language. Woah! Blame it on the  diverse plethora of diverseness that India is. Moe a few kilometers in any direction and you might find a diferent dialect,a community and culture.

I cringe to call my marriage a love marriage or for that matter an arranged marriage (which it is not!). Its a
marriage.Period.

Mutually decided by two adults who were not starry eyed or singing songs.Lust could be a factor but whats a couple without that.

Parents were asked. But as my mother put it, we were informing not asking. It is tough to be an Indian Parent.There are millions of Issues floating around a girl child to keep the parents anxious.(Please to watch
'Satyameva jayate' by Aamir Khan if you arent aware of the issues I am talking about) The least that parents would want to do is to find the prospective groom themselves after filtering him through all preferable criterons.This itself, will not guarentee their girl a trouble free life but the probability to have that increases.t

So when I bring the guy home, I reduce that probability by zillions. The unknown factor creeps them and reminds them of all the ghastly stories run in daily papers replacing each victim's face with mine. Totally understandable in  retrospect.

Then started a background search of a kind within networks of friends of friends of friends to find whether the boy had any bad habits to ring the siren. After many days of cold war in the house and at the end of investigation, the results werent at all colorful. The boy turned out to be an average GodFearing-Jai Indian. Phew! Somewhere I also had heard the same stories and was teeny bit anxious maybe.This also in retrospect.

Marriage, at the end of it, is just that..However it starts. Love or arranged. We have to work on it. There are days when we rue the decision. There are days when we thank the heavens for the spouse. There are days when you want to run away and there are days when you want to run along :D

I always joke that I only regret one thing- I cant blame my parents on way my future is paved. It would have been convenient and easy. :P

Turning 30!

Yes I turned 30 this month.. Many wished me ,many I forced to wish me by sending not-so-subtle reminders about the d-day.

My wishers fall into many categories:
Category 1: Relatives(age 70+) : They wish you well and bless you to get pregnant soon and this time with a son. Sigh! 'Well don't delay it, we had 3 children by the time we were 25' says my very concerned relative.

Category 2: Relatives(Parents) : They are still in shock and not ready to believe I am 30. That is just a nasty reminder of their own age! Who wants such a reminder?

Category 3: Relatives(Sibling): My elder brother is happy. Finally while he's shying close to 40,I at least join the 30 club..he's all glee!My younger cousin called me a 'Dinosaur'. Sigh! again.

Category 4: Relatives(30<age<70): 'Arre only milestones are difficult. Don't worry, you'll be in your 30s for another 10 years.. Its ok'. Somehow 'in my 30s' reminds me of a very old Jeetender selling ThirtyPlus.

Category 5: Friends(same age,married,kids): One of my BFFs, gave me a hour long gyaan about age. You see according to her,there are 2 types of ages-Biological Age and Psychological Age. So biologically I am 30 but do I feel 30. She assessed me to be 25. So my Psychological age is 25...hmmm! I kind of liked that and I am going to use it.

Category 6: Friends (same age,married,no kids): 'Oh! Stop cribbing' says she. 'Just imagine what I'll have to hear, when I turn 30',she laments. 'No babies yet,you are 30 not 3!',her wishers might put it nicely.

Category 7: Friends (unmarried,younger) : They wish well! But secretly they all are hoping to stop aging somehow. I have tried it my friends! It doesn't work! God didn't listen to me either! Just like he didn't listen to Joey!

Category 8: Relatives ( In-laws) : "Oh! So you are turning 30..hmm good" This might be your cue to start growing up from a spoilt kid, is what they must be thinking.
 
Who I have to thank immensely,for the wonderful 30 years:
1)  My Folks: They did decide to have me,8 years after my brother after thinking all those years
one was enough! Phew!! Then for tolerating me throughout my toddler-isms and teen angst and love rebellion.

2) My Husband: Who knowing that I am a spoilt kid for life to still agreeing and loving me.

3) My Baby: Though she was only featuring in the last 2 years of the said 30 years. But the previous 28 years before her seem almost impossible.

So all in all,yes I turned a Psychological Age 25. I have decided to get younger than that age.

Love after a baby!

Amongst all cuteness galore,wet kisses, lots of hugs and heart-melting baby talk! N the diapers,n wipes n messy clothes n toys everywhere! Aaah! The point is where is the time for intimacy with hubby! Gone are the days where we could do anything anywhere anytime! :p
But as they say we had a good 2 years of courting and 3 years of a marriage to do all the crazy stuff we could!
I do miss that! But now i see somethings in the newly minted father that makes me fall in love with him over and over again!
I ll list a few:
1) when he stood by me during labor, held my hand and didnt ask me to 'push' impatiently ! ( it matters)
2) when He held his little girl for the first time and said a quiet thanks to me with moist eyes!
3) when he yelled at the doctors and nurses when i fell sick immediately after delivery and the temperatures did not come down for 4 days.
4) when he sat by me while i fed the baby and had eyes only for the little one ! ( u never know with men :p)
5) when he would come every night travelling 30kms to visit me and baby at my mom's place!
6) when he'd change a poopy diaper so lovely and proudly! Every she does is a marvel to him!
7) when he d get up late nites just to keep me company during a light night feed.
8) when he'd leave everything at a moments notice when i say the baby has a fever!
9) when he looks at my stretch marks and says 'awww! You went through so much' instead of being disgusted.
10) Early morning when he d take the wailing baby so that mommy could get the extra 10 minutes of sleep.(so precious)
11)When he does the dishes without being asked if the maid doesnt come!
12) When he says 'i love you' more often then before!
13) when he says i look so pretty when i am actually looking like a train has hit me!
14) when he says 'family' referring to just us three!

Aah! I love my husband and it just keeps growing day by day! Mushy me!
Ok now i ve reached the mushiness quota of the day! I ll being adding more points for the rest of our journey :)